Engagement Party Make Your Own

Question: Is it alright for an engagement party to be held the same day as the engagement?

(Posted by: arlene m on 2012-02-03 08:00:26)

MY FRIEND and his girl been together for a little over 2 years.HE wants to engage her on valentines day(i have afeeling she knows)just them alone but he wants to meke it public (meaning her family and his family)on sunday at the church they go to.HEplans on having the wedding by the end of september if evrything goes well now since theircon a budget is it all right if they have a small get together after the service at church the same day they get engage.Iheard that an engagement is not soppose to be until a month or two after the engagement but thier just having a small get together he is asking me for opinions but i am not .Any help, comments or ideas please.

Posted by: ? on 2012-02-03, 08:03:04

Nothing wrong with it at all.

Posted by: Alix on 2012-02-03, 08:03:45

I believe than no matter what the "formal time frames are " your friend can and should do whatever he wants. Its his wedding and he and his fiance are the ones who are supposed to enjoy it and live it the most. There are no rules for how and when you want to celebrate a special moment..

Posted by: Wishuponastar on 2012-02-03, 08:04:50

Sounds wonderful to include everyone in engagement. Get together same day, cool

Posted by: Jessica F on 2012-02-03, 08:07:37

Honestly there is no reason for an engagement party. (At least in my opinion). People make weddings so complicated now and want to incorporate all of these parties into the mix. I don't understand the need. You don't need more presents, it's a waste of your own money to be buying things for the guests and what not. When I got engaged it was the two of us alone and then I went and told my parents and grandmother. I didn't have a party and I don't plan on having ANY parties. I don't need an engagement party or a bridal shower and or any of those ridiculous attempts to gain attention for myself and get people to buy me things. Try asking him if he feels it's better to just keep things family and close friend related. I'm sure they are planning on having a "real " wedding and they should save their money for that instead of using money to buy refreshments for a get together to announce that they are engaged. How about she just wears her ring and the people who notice it... she can SAY, "Oh we got engaged over Valentines Day. "

Posted by: Kayla on 2012-02-03, 08:32:06

It's not alright because it seems like you're rushing things.

Posted by: R on 2012-02-03, 08:37:45

Having a get-together with families immediately after the engagement is awesome, but that's not what an engagement party is. An engagement party also has nothing to do with their budget. An engagement party is a formal event with suits/ cocktail dresses or even tuxes thrown in honor of the couple by extended family or by good family friends. That's what would be a month or two after the engagement. Having a get-together with families immediately after the engagement is great, but don't call it "their engagement party. "

Posted by: ? on 2012-02-03, 08:54:41

Everyone does their own thing nowadays. There is no set tradition anymore so it's completely awesome to just do what is right for you. I don't see the point in doing what others say you should anyway. Just because people say you should do it this way or that way doesn't mean it works for you.

Posted by: J on 2012-02-03, 09:00:23

How is it considered an engagement party? If he wants to propose around all of those people at church then he can do that. All he has to do is consider it a normal get together, it is all part of the proposal and has nothing to do with an "engagement party ". If when a guy proposes he has everyone waiting to throw a party when she says yes then that in itself isn't usually considered an engagement party, its just a celebration of proposal.... An engagement party isn't even required but it is meant to be planned by both after she says yes. Just tell him that it is fine to have all of these proposal plans, it'll just be that much more special. He shouldn't be thinking of wedding plans because 6-7 months is a strict schedule to have to plan a wedding and some churches may already be booked up for those dates. She might not even want to get married this September so he shouldn't get too hooked up on this. The only thing he should be worrying about is her answer.

Posted by: joinme4coffee on 2012-02-03, 10:16:20

The purpose of an engagement party is to give the two families an opportunity to get acquainted. If the two families know each other there is no need to have a party. There is no "official " time during the engagement to have an engagement party. Also, an engagement party is not a gift giving event. Your friend is on a tight budget. Having an engagement party would be an unnecessary strain on the budget. That money would be better spent on the wedding. There is no reason they can't get together after church, but don't call it an engagement party. If they host a party, they have to pay for their guests. In this situation, the get together should happen spontaneously and then everyone would be responsible to pay their share.