Wedding Invitations Make Your Own

Question: What do you do if you get a wedding invitation after the rsvp date?

(Posted by: Perse on 2010-07-22 13:42:50)

Do you still RSVP? Do you assume you were on the B- list? I should explain why I'm asking. I'm just curious how most people would react. A friend who can be a little flaky at times sent her wedding invitations out later than the RSVP date on them and most everyone is now assuming they were B- listed, but if that's the case, then everyone was B- listed. Lol. It might be funny once the word gets out more, but a lot of people are upset right now.

Posted by: fizzy stuff on 2010-07-22, 20:55:10

A quick look at the postmark would tell me whether it was sent recently or had got lost in the mail. If it was sent recently, I would probably think I was on the B-list and not feel very good about that. Unless the bride was a close friend and I knew she was disorganized, then I would be laughing about it like you are.

Posted by: Beck* on 2010-07-22, 13:43:35

You really aren't wanted there. lol

Posted by: Poodie on 2010-07-22, 13:44:28

I would either assume that I was on the "B List " or that it got lost in the mail. Either way, I'd call to RSVP.

Posted by: Sharan D on 2010-07-22, 13:45:38

Look at the envelope, it will show you the postmark. If it was mailed in a timely manner, then the post office messed up. If it was mailed really late and the sender knew you'd get it late, then you were probably a B lister..but that doesn't mean you shouldn't respond. You definitely should respond either way, unless of course the wedding is overwith already.

Posted by: Constellation on 2010-07-22, 13:45:55

You take the high road and rsvp and call as well (say something like, "Hello, Julie! I just mailed my reply card, but since it didn't arrive till after the requested date, I wanted to make sure to get back to you right away, just in case you needed to give final numbers to the caterer! ") Don't be a jerk about it. You were still wanted at the wedding-money's tight, and she's probably really excited that she gets to invite you.

Posted by: Kelly on 2010-07-22, 13:47:29

Call the person up and explain the issue and see if you can still attend. If not, then no big deal if you still can then YEA!

Posted by: Doodlestuff on 2010-07-22, 13:48:01

Look at when it was mailed? If it was mailed in the past few days, yes, you are on the B-list. If it was mailed several weeks ago, call the bride and let her know that the invitation JUST ARRIVED and would it still be too late to be included? If your invitation was too late, realize that the bride may not be able to make adjustments to her numbers - for some, the RSVP date is pretty set in stone with caterers notified a couple of days later.

Posted by: Oot n Aboot on 2010-07-22, 13:50:15

I would send it and call the person to tell them it's in the mail. I don't care if I would be a B-lister. I'm sure I would already know what kind of relationship we had.

Posted by: Sapphirebullet on 2010-07-22, 13:59:47

I would still RSVP - but I'd do it by phone. Frankly, I wouldn't care if I was on the A or B list. It's nice to be invited, but honestly, missing someone's wedding isn't going to cause my world to come crashing down! I wouldn't be offended - life is too short, ya know?

Posted by: iloveweddings on 2010-07-22, 15:21:11

Well, I would do both of the above. Yes, I would still RSVP and I would assume that I was on the B-list! But, if like you, SOME of the guests know that she is flaky, well, then you can just laugh about it and go on. I certainly can understand why people would be upset, though, and she may not get a very good turn out because of this.

Posted by: 4REEE on 2010-07-22, 15:41:59

I would make a personal call. * * *

Posted by: Libby on 2010-07-22, 18:28:06

Depends... was I slow in getting my mailing address to her?

Posted by: Kelly on 2010-07-24, 01:26:50

Well first I would check the post mark date, if the post mark date was was already after the RSVP, I would: Realize I was B-listed. Be hopeful they just forgot me or found an invite they forgot to send, but realize I was B-listed. RSVP with my yes or no, despite my b-listed significance.

Posted by: karli r on 2010-07-24, 20:46:26

Send back the RSVP but make sure you call, whether you decide to go or not. Sometimes people just don't get around to mailing the invitations when they planned to. If you want to go, then don't feel like you shouldn't because you were B-listed.