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Question: Questions about wedding invitations?

(Posted by: mommy to 3! on 2010-07-26 23:02:49)

I have a couple questions about wedding invitations. Okay first Do i really have to mail them all? and by this I mean like to my mother- in- law, my sister- inlaw.....and so forth. the reason I wondering is because like 30 % of our guest live so close to me i could walk to their house, my mother- in- law lives 5 house down, my sister in law about 3 blocks, my fiance's friend next door. Do i need to mail their invites Do you get upset if the RSVP card is not a mail in but has a phone number, email, and wedding website? do you really think that it looks cheap. i'm asking this because very wedding i have gone to there has either been to RSVP or just a number to call. It has never bothered me either way, But I really would like to save a bit ( i know it wont be much) of cash, because of the type of invites for postage it is gonna cost 1.10 per invite, and there are 50...It would cost like 75 dollars ( because it is 52 cents a stamp, to send the RSVP cards back) to send them all by mail and do the RSVP. Thanks!!! We are using the knot as well...I LOVE IT!!!

Posted by: mJc on 2010-07-27, 00:40:16

I think it's ok for you to hand deliver the invitations to those who are in walking distance. Just remember that people love getting mail though. It's a new age and I would not be offended if my RSVP needed to be completed via email or telephone (you're still going to have to call half the people because they'll forget to RSVP anyway). P.S. Do not drop them in the mailbox without postage - believe it or not, it's illegal to do that.

Posted by: metal_death_music on 2010-07-26, 23:09:10

It's traditional and a little more special if you send them through the mail. Though something neat and possibly even more so would be for the people who live close to you, you could go and stick the invitation right on their front door. So when they get home they have a nice invitation staring them in the face.

Posted by: Snoot this! on 2010-07-26, 23:14:15

Might be the proper etiquette but I'm sending those who are out of town/ state by mail and handing the rest out. About 75% of my guests are from my church and family from the small town that I live in so I see no point in mailing them all out when I see them all week. :)

Posted by: habblie on 2010-07-26, 23:17:25

Mailing them all is a personal choice. In this day and age where people are more causal, you could just invite your close friends and family personally. You may want to ask if they want an invitation to keep for sentimental reasons, and give them one without mailing it. It's really just a matter of how formal you want to be. The last couple weddings I went to only had a website to RSVP on. I thought it was fine, being geeky myself. The websites were nice, so it wasn't at all tacky. It's the way to go these days! And they were still very nice weddings. I'm sure you've heard it before, but it's YOUR wedding, so do what you want to do! (Especially if you're the one paying for it.) I promise you, no one is going to be talking about the invitations after the wedding...just how beautiful it was. :) I have a friend getting married next month that is using theknot.com for their RSVPs. Very nice!

Posted by: riversconfluence on 2010-07-27, 00:05:02

Yes, you can hand deliver the invites. That was always done, especially among rich people. Drop them off next time you see the person, or during errands. No, you do not have to have an RSVP card, as long as it is made clear that a response is required. It might pay you to include two ways to respond, some people do not have computers, and the things do break. And with the economy the way it is, I have a friend who unplugged hers. Congrats and good luck, if you need anything else, just ask us! I like The Knot too, lots of info there.

Posted by: lil Ms. on 2010-07-27, 00:25:15

Hand them out or drop them in their mailbox yourself. There's nothing wrong with that at all, I would never think twice if it came through the mail or was handed to me in person. Also, your rsvp card is actually staying well within the current times. Email/ wedding sites are the way to go these days and sites [such as the knot, as you mentioned] offer a page for guests to rsvp to your wedding. Its convenient for all, for those who aren't computer savvy, they can call. Honestly, I would think people would be more prone to misplacing those little cards!

Posted by: Midwest on 2010-07-27, 03:27:49

I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Go for a walk one night and hand deliver them. You can just put it in their mail box (same thing as the post). I have had friends do this, and had the RSVP's be phone or email. Seems like everyone has email these days (and if not they will have a phone). It is actually MORE convenient to do it the way you are thinking. Weddings are expensive, you may as well save some $$ where you can.

Posted by: Jenny Lynne on 2010-07-27, 08:23:50

To me mailing them is a must. It looks cheap and tacky to do otherwise. Personally, I do not like a wedding website or an email. Invitations should have a self addressed stamped envelope inside for RSVP and a telephone no. just in case of a question. In this day and age of computers, many people are still not computer literate. All this fast paced, easy do this and that, to me has taken the formality and personal etiquette out of weddings which are truly a spectacular event. Don't mean to sound rude, sorry, but this is just my answer. Good luck.