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Question: Advise, falling out with chief bridesmaid (sister) last nite at wedding rehearsal?

(Posted by: Niki on 2010-07-17 02:45:27)

Right im getting married next week, my older sister is chief bridesmaid, now let me give a little insight, she's a person who walks into a room and start commenting on everything in it the people in it and makes a mountain out of a mole hill, she's is over organised, and generally its her way or NO WAY, so we had some drinks and food back at my new house last night as part of mini house warming, about 20 people in the house and a bit of music in the background, i was sitting at the table talking to my friend, now i was leaning over and yes talking low into her ear cos telling her something private not bi*ching or anything just private, my sister was talking to my cousin when she turns to me and said "your very ignorant whispering " i was saying we're having a private conversation and its loud, She kept saying everyone can see you, i was like "ah no they cant they're all in groups having a chat the only only taking notice is you " she picked up her cup stormed from the table and was leaving, i went outside 5 mins later to say bye to my friend and seen my sister and said "by the way if i want to whisper in my own house its not business, you do want you want i'll do what i want " she called me some very nice names and i didnt hold back either, she stormed off in her car like a bat outta hell!!! This girl would not let you say anything out of place in her house, you need an appointment to visit her cos she's such an important person and has to spend valuable time with her hubby and child and dont bother her basically, she acts like she's royalty, she thinks we're all beneath her and fires out cutting comments to everyone, this really was'nt about the whispering to me it was a case of all the snide remarks she's made in the last few weeks built up and this was my rehearsal and house warming and to me i saw it as how dare you come in here shouting the odd's saying oh i dont like your lights or i dont like this....i do let things go over my head but its only so much i'll take before i snap and dont think im stressed from the wedding cos im not one bit, the wedding was a joy to organise and im not nervous or running around like a headless chicken, everything is in place i just need to show up but she wants a time sheet for the morning and know exactly whats happening, i've it all taken care of but she's just getting worked up and she's not even the one getting married, please give me your opinion and some good advise

Posted by: Octopus Pie on 2010-07-17, 02:56:08

I think that the prime culprit here is jealousy. You are the bride & the center of attention & your sister can't stand it. She wants to be the "star ", the one everyone looks at & focuses on. Even though it's your wedding, she wants people to treat her like she's responsible for everything running smoothly. Since she can't be the star of this wedding, she'll get the attention another way... by throwing a fit & causing a scene. Make it through the wedding & after that, just cut ties with her for a while. Just because you are family, she shouldn't abuse your goodwill. Maybe some time by herself will cool her hot head. At the wedding be diplomatic, but cool towards her. Don't be nasty or rude- only speak to her as little as possible & if she starts getting nasty, turn around & walk away. Don't let her goad you into another argument- that's what she wants. She wants to pull you down from your bridal pillar & make you (in her vision) as petty as she is. Although you might want to arrange for someone to do some of your sister's duties if she were to try to grandstand at the wedding & "accidentally " forget something. Or you could arrange for someone to occupy her time for the day & keep her away from you- tell that person that they'll have your undying gratitude.